November 11, 2008

it's the heart

generosity.

often, we think only in terms of money. be generous with your money. but that's not all.

lately, certain things have been happening that made me wonder and go, hmmm, maybe there's something i should learn here....

the past few days, things happened that left me with little choice.

i can refuse to budge, be stubborn and yes, have the final say, yet not gain much else. if i choose to not bow to that thing called 'humility' and 'forgiveness', i could perhaps 'look good' but really, then what? most of the times, we want to have the final say. we don't want to say sorry [especially if we were not in the wrong] and we just never want to be the one who offers the olive branch. indeed it is a tough pie to swallow. in fact, i often imagine myself swallowing an egg (whole) in such circumstances. choking indeed.

but if the same set of circumstances keep occuring, i guess i definitely have to admit and go, ok. i get it. i'm supposed to learn something here and i better do so. god only knows how long it'll take if i don't.

i love the chinese word 大方 . it means, generosity of heart. it means grace. it means 'an open heart' literally translated.

we don't always have to have the last word.
we don't always have to be the 'right' one.
we don't always have to have the answers.
we don't always have to wait for the other person to relent.

generosity of heart.

ok.

i get it.

3 comments:

allsaints said...

haha! good for u... make sure u remember what u've learnt.. i'm ur witness!! (bleh)

The Realistic Dreamer said...

you read it too
so if you know it now and not do it ..... hahahahaha
get my hint ;)

allsaints said...

huh? what hint?! :p